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Ever feel like there are different “parts” of you that react to situations in totally opposite ways? Like one part feels calm and logical, but another feels scared and out of control? This is what we call structural dissociation, and it’s actually a common response to trauma.

When something really overwhelming happens, our brain can split experiences into different parts. You might have one part that’s more focused on day-to-day functioning and another part holding the intense emotions or memories of the trauma. These parts can feel disconnected from each other, which can cause confusion, emotional ups and downs, or feeling “out of sync.”

In trauma recovery, we work to gently bring these parts together—helping you reconnect with the emotions, memories, and experiences that may have been split off. This doesn’t mean diving into everything all at once (that can feel overwhelming!), but it’s about building a sense of safety and trust so these parts can integrate.

Over time, this helps you feel more whole and less fragmented, and allows for a deeper, more grounded sense of healing. So if you ever feel like different parts of you are pulling in different directions, it’s okay. There’s a way forward, and recovery can help bring those pieces back together.

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

Ever feel like there are different “parts” of you that react to situations in totally opposite ways? Like one part feels calm and logical, but another feels scared and out of control? This is what we call structural dissociation, and it’s actually a common response to trauma.

When something really overwhelming happens, our brain can split experiences into different parts. You might have one part that’s more focused on day-to-day functioning and another part holding the intense emotions or memories of the trauma. These parts can feel disconnected from each other, which can cause confusion, emotional ups and downs, or feeling “out of sync.”

In trauma recovery, we work to gently bring these parts together—helping you reconnect with the emotions, memories, and experiences that may have been split off. This doesn’t mean diving into everything all at once (that can feel overwhelming!), but it’s about building a sense of safety and trust so these parts can integrate.

Over time, this helps you feel more whole and less fragmented, and allows for a deeper, more grounded sense of healing. So if you ever feel like different parts of you are pulling in different directions, it’s okay. There’s a way forward, and recovery can help bring those pieces back together.

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

When you’ve experienced trauma, one of the hardest parts can be feeling like you’ve lost control—over your emotions, your body, or even your life.

Trauma has a way of making you feel powerless, as if everything is happening to you, and that sense of being overwhelmed can linger long after the traumatic event is over.

That’s why a big focus in trauma recovery is regaining a sense of control. It’s not about controlling everything around you (because, let’s face it, life is unpredictable), but more about reconnecting with yourself. It’s learning to trust your own reactions, set healthy boundaries, and feel grounded again in your own body.

When you start to feel like you’re steering the ship again, it can make a huge difference. Suddenly, emotions that once felt overpowering seem more manageable, and situations that used to trigger you don’t feel as overwhelming.

Small steps toward regaining control—whether it’s through breathing exercises, setting boundaries, or simply tuning into what your body needs—can lead to big changes. You get to decide what recovery looks like for you, at your own pace. And that, in itself, is empowering

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

When you’ve experienced trauma, one of the hardest parts can be feeling like you’ve lost control—over your emotions, your body, or even your life.

Trauma has a way of making you feel powerless, as if everything is happening to you, and that sense of being overwhelmed can linger long after the traumatic event is over.

That’s why a big focus in trauma recovery is regaining a sense of control. It’s not about controlling everything around you (because, let’s face it, life is unpredictable), but more about reconnecting with yourself. It’s learning to trust your own reactions, set healthy boundaries, and feel grounded again in your own body.

When you start to feel like you’re steering the ship again, it can make a huge difference. Suddenly, emotions that once felt overpowering seem more manageable, and situations that used to trigger you don’t feel as overwhelming.

Small steps toward regaining control—whether it’s through breathing exercises, setting boundaries, or simply tuning into what your body needs—can lead to big changes. You get to decide what recovery looks like for you, at your own pace. And that, in itself, is empowering

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

Part of the work in building security is to modify your internal working model - how you expect people to react and behave based on your past experiences - replacing entrenched defences - against abandonment, intimacy or intrusion - with more mature and flexible strategies. Laying ‘ghosts’ to rest. This takes time...

Trauma Recovery also involves actively distinguishing the past from the present. Helping you recognise that you have a choice about how to respond to current events in an effective manner.

Trauma therapy is about helping you to say:
• The trauma happened to me
• I am aware of my past and how it affects me in the present
• The past is differentiated from the present (it is over now)
• I can be mindful of the present moment
• I can sense and feel my body now
• I have choices now about my thoughts, emotions, and behaviours
• I can orient toward the future

Healing from trauma often involves unlearning those old attachment patterns and rebuilding trust in a way that feels safe. Therapy can be a safe space to explore this, combining body-focused techniques with emotional healing.

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

Part of the work in building security is to modify your internal working model - how you expect people to react and behave based on your past experiences - replacing entrenched defences - against abandonment, intimacy or intrusion - with more mature and flexible strategies. Laying ‘ghosts’ to rest. This takes time...

Trauma Recovery also involves actively distinguishing the past from the present. Helping you recognise that you have a choice about how to respond to current events in an effective manner.

Trauma therapy is about helping you to say:
• The trauma happened to me
• I am aware of my past and how it affects me in the present
• The past is differentiated from the present (it is over now)
• I can be mindful of the present moment
• I can sense and feel my body now
• I have choices now about my thoughts, emotions, and behaviours
• I can orient toward the future

Healing from trauma often involves unlearning those old attachment patterns and rebuilding trust in a way that feels safe. Therapy can be a safe space to explore this, combining body-focused techniques with emotional healing.

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

Did you know that unresolved trauma can be linked to the development of chronic illnesses and pain conditions?

Trauma doesn’t just affect your mind - it can impact your body too, in ways we often don’t realise.

When trauma isn’t processed, your nervous system stays stuck in survival mode. Your body holds onto the stress, and over time, this can lead to chronic pain, fatigue, autoimmune issues, and more.

Think of it like a loop your body can’t escape. Your nervous system is constantly on high alert, creating inflammation and tension.

Unresolved trasuma is associated with the development of chronic illness and pain conditions, including:

* Seizures
* Migraines
* Gastrointestinal problems (GERD, IBS, etc.)
* Autoimmune disorders
* Fibromyalgia
* Chronic fatigue
* Medically unexplained symptoms

The good news? Healing is possible.

Working through trauma can help your body to release the stress and reset itself, reducing the physical symptoms that come with it.

Therapy can be a safe space to explore this, combining body-focused techniques with emotional healing.

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

Did you know that unresolved trauma can be linked to the development of chronic illnesses and pain conditions?

Trauma doesn’t just affect your mind - it can impact your body too, in ways we often don’t realise.

When trauma isn’t processed, your nervous system stays stuck in survival mode. Your body holds onto the stress, and over time, this can lead to chronic pain, fatigue, autoimmune issues, and more.

Think of it like a loop your body can’t escape. Your nervous system is constantly on high alert, creating inflammation and tension.

Unresolved trasuma is associated with the development of chronic illness and pain conditions, including:

* Seizures
* Migraines
* Gastrointestinal problems (GERD, IBS, etc.)
* Autoimmune disorders
* Fibromyalgia
* Chronic fatigue
* Medically unexplained symptoms

The good news? Healing is possible.

Working through trauma can help your body to release the stress and reset itself, reducing the physical symptoms that come with it.

Therapy can be a safe space to explore this, combining body-focused techniques with emotional healing.

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

Feeling on edge and tired all the time? Here’s why cortisol might be the culprit.

When we experience trauma or live in a constant state of stress, our body tries to adapt to survive. One way it does this is by producing more cortisol—our stress hormone.

But, over time, the body develops more cortisol receptors to absorb the extra cortisol. This means that while cortisol levels are high, most of it is being absorbed at a cellular level, leaving very little circulating in the bloodstream.

What’s the result? It’s a confusing mix: we feel anxious because our body is cranking out cortisol, but we also feel exhausted and low because there’s not enough left to keep our energy stable. It’s a rollercoaster of high anxiety and low energy that can lead to burnout, depression, and emotional fatigue.

The good news? You can start to break this cycle with some simple, everyday habits. Getting enough sleep, regular exercise, deep breathing, and nurturing secure, supportive relationships all help to bring cortisol back to balance.

If you’re feeling trapped in this cycle, know that you don’t have to stay there. Help is available—and healing is possible.

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

Feeling on edge and tired all the time? Here’s why cortisol might be the culprit.

When we experience trauma or live in a constant state of stress, our body tries to adapt to survive. One way it does this is by producing more cortisol—our stress hormone.

But, over time, the body develops more cortisol receptors to absorb the extra cortisol. This means that while cortisol levels are high, most of it is being absorbed at a cellular level, leaving very little circulating in the bloodstream.

What’s the result? It’s a confusing mix: we feel anxious because our body is cranking out cortisol, but we also feel exhausted and low because there’s not enough left to keep our energy stable. It’s a rollercoaster of high anxiety and low energy that can lead to burnout, depression, and emotional fatigue.

The good news? You can start to break this cycle with some simple, everyday habits. Getting enough sleep, regular exercise, deep breathing, and nurturing secure, supportive relationships all help to bring cortisol back to balance.

If you’re feeling trapped in this cycle, know that you don’t have to stay there. Help is available—and healing is possible.

Follow @be.authentic_trauma.therapy for more tips, advice and encouragement to help you understand & heal trauma wounds. Visit my website (link in bio) for further info.

#traumatherapy #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #cptsd #aboundonmentwound

Boundaries create a safe personal space, allowing you to regain control and protect your emotional well-being. By defining limits, you prioritize self-care, reduce overwhelm, and foster trust in your healing process, empowering yourself to heal from trauma in a supportive, respectful environment.

1. Tune into your feelings: Pay attention to when you feel uncomfortable or drained in certain situations. Those feelings are signals that you may need to set a boundary.

2. Start small: You don’t need to overhaul your entire life in one go! Begin by saying “no” to things that aren’t right for you and see how that feels.

3. Be clear and direct: Communicate your needs with honesty. You don’t have to over-explain—just say what you need with confidence.

4. Hold your ground: Setting boundaries is only half the battle. It’s important to stick to them, even when it feels uncomfortable or when others push back.

If you’d like to learn more or schedule a free consultation, please please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#mentalhealth #boundaries #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #boundaries #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selfdoubt #selfesteem #anxiety #anxious #mentalhealthmatters #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery

Boundaries create a safe personal space, allowing you to regain control and protect your emotional well-being. By defining limits, you prioritize self-care, reduce overwhelm, and foster trust in your healing process, empowering yourself to heal from trauma in a supportive, respectful environment.

1. Tune into your feelings: Pay attention to when you feel uncomfortable or drained in certain situations. Those feelings are signals that you may need to set a boundary.

2. Start small: You don’t need to overhaul your entire life in one go! Begin by saying “no” to things that aren’t right for you and see how that feels.

3. Be clear and direct: Communicate your needs with honesty. You don’t have to over-explain—just say what you need with confidence.

4. Hold your ground: Setting boundaries is only half the battle. It’s important to stick to them, even when it feels uncomfortable or when others push back.

If you’d like to learn more or schedule a free consultation, please please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#mentalhealth #boundaries #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #boundaries #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selfdoubt #selfesteem #anxiety #anxious #mentalhealthmatters #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery

All behaviour serves a function, often to express a need or an emotional state. Every behaviour is, therefore, a form of communication.

Whether verbal or non-verbal, our actions, body language, and even silence tell a story about how we feel, think, or experience the world. Even when someone withdraws or avoids eye contact, they’re sending a message about how they feel, perhaps signalling discomfort or anxiety.

Understanding that behaviour is communication helps us respond with empathy and curiosity. Instead of just focusing on the actions, we can ask ourselves: "What is this person trying to tell me?"

This shift in perspective opens up a deeper connection with others and allows for more compassionate and effective communication.

Remember: if someone can’t say it, they will show it. Be ready to listen to both.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#mentalhealth #boundaries #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selfdoubt #selfesteem #anxiety #anxious #mentalhealthmatters #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery

All behaviour serves a function, often to express a need or an emotional state. Every behaviour is, therefore, a form of communication.

Whether verbal or non-verbal, our actions, body language, and even silence tell a story about how we feel, think, or experience the world. Even when someone withdraws or avoids eye contact, they’re sending a message about how they feel, perhaps signalling discomfort or anxiety.

Understanding that behaviour is communication helps us respond with empathy and curiosity. Instead of just focusing on the actions, we can ask ourselves: "What is this person trying to tell me?"

This shift in perspective opens up a deeper connection with others and allows for more compassionate and effective communication.

Remember: if someone can’t say it, they will show it. Be ready to listen to both.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#mentalhealth #boundaries #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selfdoubt #selfesteem #anxiety #anxious #mentalhealthmatters #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery

Do your thoughts reflect reality or old wounds from childhood?

When we experience trauma it can lead to cognitive distortions—basically, negative thinking patterns that don’t match reality. They often become automatic, repetitive, and increasingly negative.

You might blame yourself for things that aren’t your fault (blaming), assume the worst will always happen (catastrophizing), or believe that if you’re not perfect, you’re a failure (all-or-nothing thinking).

Inaccurate beliefs about yourself, others, and the world might include:

* There’s something wrong with me.
* I’m so stupid.
* I can’t seem to do anything right.
* It’s all my fault
* I do not deserve to exist
* I’m unworthy
* I can’t trust anyone

These distortions are like mental habits our brains develop in response to past pain. Although these thoughts are irrational, we often accept them as truth, and don’t consider that we may be falling into a thinking trap.

Once we are aware of cognitive distortions we are more likely to catch them, and can begin to challenge them. Recognising them is the first step to understanding how our past influences our present.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumas #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #healingtraumas #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #talkingtherapyuk #talkingtherapyhelps #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery

Do your thoughts reflect reality or old wounds from childhood?

When we experience trauma it can lead to cognitive distortions—basically, negative thinking patterns that don’t match reality. They often become automatic, repetitive, and increasingly negative.

You might blame yourself for things that aren’t your fault (blaming), assume the worst will always happen (catastrophizing), or believe that if you’re not perfect, you’re a failure (all-or-nothing thinking).

Inaccurate beliefs about yourself, others, and the world might include:

* There’s something wrong with me.
* I’m so stupid.
* I can’t seem to do anything right.
* It’s all my fault
* I do not deserve to exist
* I’m unworthy
* I can’t trust anyone

These distortions are like mental habits our brains develop in response to past pain. Although these thoughts are irrational, we often accept them as truth, and don’t consider that we may be falling into a thinking trap.

Once we are aware of cognitive distortions we are more likely to catch them, and can begin to challenge them. Recognising them is the first step to understanding how our past influences our present.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumas #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #healingtraumas #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #talkingtherapyuk #talkingtherapyhelps #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery

The attachment-trauma cycle can feel like a never-ending loop.

Adults who’ve experienced unresolved trauma often enter relationships with deep emotional wounds, which can create drama, conflict, or instability.

When they become parents without healing that trauma, they unintentionally pass on their unresolved issues to their children. This can lead to kids developing insecure attachments—feeling unloved, unseen, or unsafe. And the cycle continues as these children grow up with their own attachment wounds.

Breaking the cycle starts with awareness. Healing your own trauma, learning to regulate emotions, and building healthier relationships can shift the pattern.

Therapy, self-reflection, and being gentle with yourself are key steps. When you work through your past, you show up as a more present, secure parent who can create the safety your children need for healthy attachment. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about healing enough to stop the cycle from repeating.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumas #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #healingtraumas #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #talkingtherapyuk #talkingtherapyhelps #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery

The attachment-trauma cycle can feel like a never-ending loop.

Adults who’ve experienced unresolved trauma often enter relationships with deep emotional wounds, which can create drama, conflict, or instability.

When they become parents without healing that trauma, they unintentionally pass on their unresolved issues to their children. This can lead to kids developing insecure attachments—feeling unloved, unseen, or unsafe. And the cycle continues as these children grow up with their own attachment wounds.

Breaking the cycle starts with awareness. Healing your own trauma, learning to regulate emotions, and building healthier relationships can shift the pattern.

Therapy, self-reflection, and being gentle with yourself are key steps. When you work through your past, you show up as a more present, secure parent who can create the safety your children need for healthy attachment. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about healing enough to stop the cycle from repeating.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumas #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #healingtraumas #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #talkingtherapyuk #talkingtherapyhelps #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery

Childhood and relational trauma can really mess with how we connect with people as adults.

If you didn’t feel safe, loved, or supported as a kid—especially by the people closest to you—it shapes your view of relationships.

You might find yourself overly anxious in relationships, constantly fearing rejection or abandonment. Or, you might swing the other way and struggle with opening up at all, keeping people at arm’s length.

Trust issues, difficulty with boundaries, and a tendency to either over-please or push others away are super common.

These patterns are survival responses from your past, but they can make forming healthy, secure relationships as an adult really tricky.

Healing from trauma often involves unlearning those old patterns and rebuilding trust in a way that feels safe.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

#childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #childhoodtraumas #childhoodtraumasurvivor #childhoodtraumatherapist #complextraumarecovery #connecttoself #emotionalneglect #healingtrauma #healingtraumas #innerchildhealingjourney #innerchildwound #processingtrauma #relationaltraumarecovery #selfcompassionpractice #talkingtherapyuk #talkingtherapyhelps #traumaresponses #avoidantattachmentstyle #emotionaltrauma #cptsdrecovery #traumainformedpractice #traumainformedpractice #traumarecovery

Childhood and relational trauma can really mess with how we connect with people as adults.

If you didn’t feel safe, loved, or supported as a kid—especially by the people closest to you—it shapes your view of relationships.

You might find yourself overly anxious in relationships, constantly fearing rejection or abandonment. Or, you might swing the other way and struggle with opening up at all, keeping people at arm’s length.

Trust issues, difficulty with boundaries, and a tendency to either over-please or push others away are super common.

These patterns are survival responses from your past, but they can make forming healthy, secure relationships as an adult really tricky.

Healing from trauma often involves unlearning those old patterns and rebuilding trust in a way that feels safe.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

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Childhood trauma refers to any distressing experience a child encounters that overwhelms their ability to cope. This could be physical or emotional abuse, neglect, or witnessing violence, among other traumatic events.

Trauma impacts a child’s development, affecting not only emotional and psychological well-being but also how they interact with the world as adults.

The effects of childhood trauma can last into adulthood, influencing relationships, self-esteem, and even physical health. However, the human mind and body have an extraordinary ability to heal, especially with the right support and understanding of how trauma affects us on a deep, often unconscious level.

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Childhood trauma refers to any distressing experience a child encounters that overwhelms their ability to cope. This could be physical or emotional abuse, neglect, or witnessing violence, among other traumatic events.

Trauma impacts a child’s development, affecting not only emotional and psychological well-being but also how they interact with the world as adults.

The effects of childhood trauma can last into adulthood, influencing relationships, self-esteem, and even physical health. However, the human mind and body have an extraordinary ability to heal, especially with the right support and understanding of how trauma affects us on a deep, often unconscious level.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

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Childhood trauma (relational trauma or developmental trauma) can all lead to Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) in adulthood. When safety, love, or security are lacking during key developmental years, it impacts how we connect with others and view the world.

This often shows up in adulthood as constant anxiety, emotional flashbacks, trust issues, and feeling disconnected or “numb.” C-PTSD symptoms include low self-esteem, trouble regulating emotions, chronic feelings of shame or guilt, and difficulty maintaining healthy relationships. People may also struggle with dissociation, nightmares, and a persistent sense of fear. Healing is possible, but it often takes deep work to unlearn those old survival patterns.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

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Childhood trauma (relational trauma or developmental trauma) can all lead to Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) in adulthood. When safety, love, or security are lacking during key developmental years, it impacts how we connect with others and view the world.

This often shows up in adulthood as constant anxiety, emotional flashbacks, trust issues, and feeling disconnected or “numb.” C-PTSD symptoms include low self-esteem, trouble regulating emotions, chronic feelings of shame or guilt, and difficulty maintaining healthy relationships. People may also struggle with dissociation, nightmares, and a persistent sense of fear. Healing is possible, but it often takes deep work to unlearn those old survival patterns.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

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Trauma recovery is not a quick fix, and it’s important to recognise that healing is a process. The duration of therapy varies for each individual, depending on the complexity of their trauma and their personal resilience.

Therapy works on both the explicit and implicit (unconscious) level. The process of healing involves bringing implicit memories to the surface, where they can be acknowledged and processed safely. It often requires revisiting difficult memories and emotions, which can be challenging, but it is a vital part of the journey toward healing. This helps to untangle the body’s automatic responses to trauma and release the emotional and physical tension that has been held for years.

Recovery involves gradual shifts in how you feel in your body, think about yourself and the world, and respond to life. Through therapy, you can learn to reconnect with your body, gain clarity about your emotional and cognitive processes, and build healthier relationships with others. Over time, you can develop new ways of thinking and being that are free from the grip of past trauma.

If you’re reading this and feel that you may be affected by childhood trauma, it’s important to know that you are not alone and that help is available. Seeking therapy is a courageous step toward reclaiming your life and healing from the past. The right therapist can help you explore your experiences in a safe and compassionate environment, using approaches that work for you.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

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Trauma recovery is not a quick fix, and it’s important to recognise that healing is a process. The duration of therapy varies for each individual, depending on the complexity of their trauma and their personal resilience.

Therapy works on both the explicit and implicit (unconscious) level. The process of healing involves bringing implicit memories to the surface, where they can be acknowledged and processed safely. It often requires revisiting difficult memories and emotions, which can be challenging, but it is a vital part of the journey toward healing. This helps to untangle the body’s automatic responses to trauma and release the emotional and physical tension that has been held for years.

Recovery involves gradual shifts in how you feel in your body, think about yourself and the world, and respond to life. Through therapy, you can learn to reconnect with your body, gain clarity about your emotional and cognitive processes, and build healthier relationships with others. Over time, you can develop new ways of thinking and being that are free from the grip of past trauma.

If you’re reading this and feel that you may be affected by childhood trauma, it’s important to know that you are not alone and that help is available. Seeking therapy is a courageous step toward reclaiming your life and healing from the past. The right therapist can help you explore your experiences in a safe and compassionate environment, using approaches that work for you.

If you’d like to find out more please click the ‘Contact me’ link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy

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Healing from trauma isn’t easy, but it’s totally possible. The key? Feeling safe and connected. When we’re in a space where we feel secure—whether it's with friends, family, or even just within ourselves—it’s like giving our nervous system permission to relax. 🧘‍♀️

Connection is equally powerful. Having people around who get you, who listen without judgment, can make all the difference. It reminds you that you're not alone in this.

Healing takes time, but the combination of safety and connection? That’s where the magic happens. Surround yourself with those who make you feel safe, take it one step at a time, and trust the process. You’ve got this. 💪💖

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Healing from trauma isn’t easy, but it’s totally possible. The key? Feeling safe and connected. When we’re in a space where we feel secure—whether it's with friends, family, or even just within ourselves—it’s like giving our nervous system permission to relax. 🧘‍♀️

Connection is equally powerful. Having people around who get you, who listen without judgment, can make all the difference. It reminds you that you're not alone in this.

Healing takes time, but the combination of safety and connection? That’s where the magic happens. Surround yourself with those who make you feel safe, take it one step at a time, and trust the process. You’ve got this. 💪💖

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Dissociation is like your brain’s “pause” button – a way to step back when things feel too overwhelming. It exists on a spectrum, from daydreaming (we’ve all been there!) to completely disconnecting from reality, especially during intense trauma. For survivors, dissociation can actually be a survival tool, helping them distance themselves from pain when it’s too much to handle.

While it serves as a protective mechanism in the moment, over time it can become automatic, even when they’re no longer in danger. Healing from trauma often involves recognising these patterns and learning how to stay present, little by little.

So if you’ve ever zoned out in tough situations, it’s not just you – it’s your brain doing its best to protect you. The key is learning when to switch off that autopilot as you heal.

Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to take small steps.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Dissociation is like your brain’s “pause” button – a way to step back when things feel too overwhelming. It exists on a spectrum, from daydreaming (we’ve all been there!) to completely disconnecting from reality, especially during intense trauma. For survivors, dissociation can actually be a survival tool, helping them distance themselves from pain when it’s too much to handle.

While it serves as a protective mechanism in the moment, over time it can become automatic, even when they’re no longer in danger. Healing from trauma often involves recognising these patterns and learning how to stay present, little by little.

So if you’ve ever zoned out in tough situations, it’s not just you – it’s your brain doing its best to protect you. The key is learning when to switch off that autopilot as you heal.

Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to take small steps.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Building personal resilience is key to healing from trauma.

Life throws tough challenges our way, but resilience helps us bounce back stronger.

It’s not about ignoring pain—it’s about learning how to cope, grow, and thrive despite it.

By building mental and emotional strength, we can better navigate the ups and downs.

Habits like practicing self-care, leaning on support systems, and staying mindful can make a huge difference.

Healing is a journey, and resilience is the tool that keeps us moving forward.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Building personal resilience is key to healing from trauma.

Life throws tough challenges our way, but resilience helps us bounce back stronger.

It’s not about ignoring pain—it’s about learning how to cope, grow, and thrive despite it.

By building mental and emotional strength, we can better navigate the ups and downs.

Habits like practicing self-care, leaning on support systems, and staying mindful can make a huge difference.

Healing is a journey, and resilience is the tool that keeps us moving forward.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is a result of repeated, prolonged exposure to traumatic events. Traumatic experiences are those that are overwhelming, invoke intense negative emotions, and involve some degree of loss of control and/or vulnerability. The experience of trauma is subjective.

In adults, C-PTSD symptoms can include Intrusive Memories, Emotional Dysregulation, Avoidance Symptoms, Dissociation, Interpersonal Problems, Cognitive Distortions, and Health Problems.

Avoidance can look like pushing people away, avoiding certain places or activities, or feeling “numb” just to protect yourself.

Avoidance can be maintained by: – Denying the past – Repressing feelings – Idealising parents – Minimising the pain – Substance use – Emotional eating – Excessive exercising – Dissociation

You’re not alone if you feel like shutting down when things get overwhelming. It’s your mind trying to keep you safe, even if it feels isolating.

Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to take small steps.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is a result of repeated, prolonged exposure to traumatic events. Traumatic experiences are those that are overwhelming, invoke intense negative emotions, and involve some degree of loss of control and/or vulnerability. The experience of trauma is subjective.

In adults, C-PTSD symptoms can include Intrusive Memories, Emotional Dysregulation, Avoidance Symptoms, Dissociation, Interpersonal Problems, Cognitive Distortions, and Health Problems.

Avoidance can look like pushing people away, avoiding certain places or activities, or feeling “numb” just to protect yourself.

Avoidance can be maintained by: – Denying the past – Repressing feelings – Idealising parents – Minimising the pain – Substance use – Emotional eating – Excessive exercising – Dissociation

You’re not alone if you feel like shutting down when things get overwhelming. It’s your mind trying to keep you safe, even if it feels isolating.

Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to take small steps.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Ever felt stuck in old patterns that keep hurting you?

Inner child work is all about connecting with the younger version of yourself—the one who first felt that pain. It’s like sitting with your past self and saying, “Hey, I see you, and I’m here now.” 💛

By giving your inner child the love and compassion they needed back then, you begin to heal the wounds that still affect your life today. This opens the door to self-compassion in the present, reminding yourself that you deserve the care and kindness you might have missed.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Ever felt stuck in old patterns that keep hurting you?

Inner child work is all about connecting with the younger version of yourself—the one who first felt that pain. It’s like sitting with your past self and saying, “Hey, I see you, and I’m here now.” 💛

By giving your inner child the love and compassion they needed back then, you begin to heal the wounds that still affect your life today. This opens the door to self-compassion in the present, reminding yourself that you deserve the care and kindness you might have missed.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Each angry outburst, each moment of rage, might be less about the present and more about guarding old, unhealed scars.

Anger can be triggered by:
* Perceived injustice or unfairness
* A sense of threat
* Hurt from our needs not being met
* Belief that important rules have been broken

How angry we get is influenced by our interpretation of the event or trigger that cased the anger. Anger is most likely in close relationships - partners, friends, work colleagues - we can have high expectations and needs for these relationships. When these are not met we feel hurt and angry.

When we get angry our bodies mobilise for defence or attack. Our muscles tighten, blood pressure increases, and heart rate increases. We can misinterpret other people’s intentions in a personal and negative way. We label them and can interpret their actions as proof of this label.

Recognising triggers and the early warning signs of anger can help you to better regulate and control the emotion. Healing old trauma wounds and self-compassion can also be routes towards better anger management.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Each angry outburst, each moment of rage, might be less about the present and more about guarding old, unhealed scars.

Anger can be triggered by:
* Perceived injustice or unfairness
* A sense of threat
* Hurt from our needs not being met
* Belief that important rules have been broken

How angry we get is influenced by our interpretation of the event or trigger that cased the anger. Anger is most likely in close relationships - partners, friends, work colleagues - we can have high expectations and needs for these relationships. When these are not met we feel hurt and angry.

When we get angry our bodies mobilise for defence or attack. Our muscles tighten, blood pressure increases, and heart rate increases. We can misinterpret other people’s intentions in a personal and negative way. We label them and can interpret their actions as proof of this label.

Recognising triggers and the early warning signs of anger can help you to better regulate and control the emotion. Healing old trauma wounds and self-compassion can also be routes towards better anger management.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Self-compassion is a game changer when it comes to healing trauma. Instead of beating yourself up for feeling broken or overwhelmed, you learn to be kind to yourself, just like you would be to a friend.

Trauma can make you feel like you're at war with your own mind and body, but self-compassion helps you create a safe space within. It teaches you to accept where you are in the healing process, with no rush or judgment. Healing isn’t linear, but self-compassion makes the journey a little gentler.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Self-compassion is a game changer when it comes to healing trauma. Instead of beating yourself up for feeling broken or overwhelmed, you learn to be kind to yourself, just like you would be to a friend.

Trauma can make you feel like you're at war with your own mind and body, but self-compassion helps you create a safe space within. It teaches you to accept where you are in the healing process, with no rush or judgment. Healing isn’t linear, but self-compassion makes the journey a little gentler.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is a result of repeated, prolonged exposure to traumatic events. Traumatic experiences are those that are overwhelming, invoke intense negative emotions, and involve some degree of loss of control and/or vulnerability. The experience of trauma is subjective.

In adults, C-PTSD symptoms can include Intrusive Memories, Emotional Dysregulation, Avoidance Symptoms, Dissociation, Interpersonal Problems, Cognitive Distortions, and Health Problems.

Emotional dysregulation is when you struggle to manage your emotions—basically, your feelings can go from 0 to 100 real quick, and it’s hard to bring them back down. This can be a common symptom of trauma because trauma messes with how our brain processes and controls emotions.

What does it look like? Think sudden outbursts, feeling overly anxious or sad, mood swings, or shutting down emotionally. It can feel like you’re constantly on edge or like you’re riding an emotional rollercoaster without a seatbelt.

Healing starts with self-awareness and self-compassion. Trauma-focused therapy can help. Mindfulness and grounding techniques also teach you how to pause and regulate when emotions spike. It’s about learning how to create space between the trigger and the reaction. Be patient with yourself—healing takes time. You’re not broken, you’re just in the process of healing.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is a result of repeated, prolonged exposure to traumatic events. Traumatic experiences are those that are overwhelming, invoke intense negative emotions, and involve some degree of loss of control and/or vulnerability. The experience of trauma is subjective.

In adults, C-PTSD symptoms can include Intrusive Memories, Emotional Dysregulation, Avoidance Symptoms, Dissociation, Interpersonal Problems, Cognitive Distortions, and Health Problems.

Emotional dysregulation is when you struggle to manage your emotions—basically, your feelings can go from 0 to 100 real quick, and it’s hard to bring them back down. This can be a common symptom of trauma because trauma messes with how our brain processes and controls emotions.

What does it look like? Think sudden outbursts, feeling overly anxious or sad, mood swings, or shutting down emotionally. It can feel like you’re constantly on edge or like you’re riding an emotional rollercoaster without a seatbelt.

Healing starts with self-awareness and self-compassion. Trauma-focused therapy can help. Mindfulness and grounding techniques also teach you how to pause and regulate when emotions spike. It’s about learning how to create space between the trigger and the reaction. Be patient with yourself—healing takes time. You’re not broken, you’re just in the process of healing.

If you’d like to find out more.please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is a result of repeated, prolonged exposure to traumatic events. It often originates in childhood and is interpersonal in nature. Some of the causes can include: Childhood Abuse, Childhood Neglect, Disrupted Attachment with primary caregiver, Domestic Violence, Social Stress (Bullying), Community and Political Violence, Prolonged Captivity or Confinement.

In adults, C-PTSD symptoms can include Intrusive Memories, Emotional Dysregulation, Avoidance Symptoms, Dissociation, Interpersonal Problems, Cognitive Distortions, and Health Problems.

Intrusive memories includes flashbacks and nightmares in addition to uncomfortable body sensations and pain. They can be triggered by any of the senses and can be one of the most challenging symptoms of trauma. Recognising that intrusive memories are a result of trauma can help you take the first step towards processing them. Other useful tools include the Rewind technique which is an imaginal exposure treatment that offers ‘closure without disclosure’. It can help stop the involuntary recall and restore functioning.

I’m a qualified therapist and Rewind practitioner. If you’d like to find out more please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is a result of repeated, prolonged exposure to traumatic events. It often originates in childhood and is interpersonal in nature. Some of the causes can include: Childhood Abuse, Childhood Neglect, Disrupted Attachment with primary caregiver, Domestic Violence, Social Stress (Bullying), Community and Political Violence, Prolonged Captivity or Confinement.

In adults, C-PTSD symptoms can include Intrusive Memories, Emotional Dysregulation, Avoidance Symptoms, Dissociation, Interpersonal Problems, Cognitive Distortions, and Health Problems.

Intrusive memories includes flashbacks and nightmares in addition to uncomfortable body sensations and pain. They can be triggered by any of the senses and can be one of the most challenging symptoms of trauma. Recognising that intrusive memories are a result of trauma can help you take the first step towards processing them. Other useful tools include the Rewind technique which is an imaginal exposure treatment that offers ‘closure without disclosure’. It can help stop the involuntary recall and restore functioning.

I’m a qualified therapist and Rewind practitioner. If you’d like to find out more please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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When children face constant threats or trauma, they may develop a disorganised attachment. This means they struggle to form healthy bonds with caregivers, feeling both drawn to and fearful of them - neither resistance nor escape is possible. As adults they often experience anxiety, and unpredictable emotions in relationships. Without a stable sense of safety, they may act out or withdraw, as their nervous systems are on high alert.

Healing from disorganised attachment involves integrating traumatic memories and creating consistent, safe, and nurturing relationships that rebuild trust and emotional stability over time.

If you’d like to learn more, please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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When children face constant threats or trauma, they may develop a disorganised attachment. This means they struggle to form healthy bonds with caregivers, feeling both drawn to and fearful of them - neither resistance nor escape is possible. As adults they often experience anxiety, and unpredictable emotions in relationships. Without a stable sense of safety, they may act out or withdraw, as their nervous systems are on high alert.

Healing from disorganised attachment involves integrating traumatic memories and creating consistent, safe, and nurturing relationships that rebuild trust and emotional stability over time.

If you’d like to learn more, please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Avoidant strategies for dealing with childhood trauma try to minimise awareness of the need for comfort and connection. It’s shaped by two contradictory internal working models....

1) Conscious model. Involves a sense that the self is good and strong while others are untrustworthy, needy and inadequate.

2) Unconscious model. Involves a disturbing sense that the self is flawed, dependent and helpless while others are rejecting, controlling and punitive.

Avoidant strategies support the first model as a defence against the second.

Avoidant strategies arise in childhood as a result of caregivers who were emotionally unavailable in a way that left them feeling unloved or rejected. The child learns to supress their emotions

As adults they may justify the emotional isolation of their childhoods as fostering self-sufficiency and determination. However, adults with unresolved avoidant strategies will often pass those strategies onto their children. It’s time to break the cycle. Let’s normalise talking about emotions and trauma.

If you’d like to learn more, please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Avoidant strategies for dealing with childhood trauma try to minimise awareness of the need for comfort and connection. It’s shaped by two contradictory internal working models....

1) Conscious model. Involves a sense that the self is good and strong while others are untrustworthy, needy and inadequate.

2) Unconscious model. Involves a disturbing sense that the self is flawed, dependent and helpless while others are rejecting, controlling and punitive.

Avoidant strategies support the first model as a defence against the second.

Avoidant strategies arise in childhood as a result of caregivers who were emotionally unavailable in a way that left them feeling unloved or rejected. The child learns to supress their emotions

As adults they may justify the emotional isolation of their childhoods as fostering self-sufficiency and determination. However, adults with unresolved avoidant strategies will often pass those strategies onto their children. It’s time to break the cycle. Let’s normalise talking about emotions and trauma.

If you’d like to learn more, please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Trauma can blur the lines between ourselves and others, making it hard to set boundaries. Healing involves reclaiming your right to say ‘no’ and understanding where you end and others begin.

Boundaries are vital for trauma recovery because they help restore a sense of control and self-worth. Learning to assert your needs and limits is empowering—it allows you to prioritise your well-being and prevents further harm. Healing starts with recognising your right to protect your peace. Remember, setting boundaries is not rejection, it’s self-respect.

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Trauma can blur the lines between ourselves and others, making it hard to set boundaries. Healing involves reclaiming your right to say ‘no’ and understanding where you end and others begin.

Boundaries are vital for trauma recovery because they help restore a sense of control and self-worth. Learning to assert your needs and limits is empowering—it allows you to prioritise your well-being and prevents further harm. Healing starts with recognising your right to protect your peace. Remember, setting boundaries is not rejection, it’s self-respect.

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Ever felt like you’re trapped in a cycle of shame? Shame often stems from trauma, creating a deep sense of unworthiness. Trauma disrupts self-identity, and shame reinforces negative beliefs about ourselves, trapping us in cycles of self-blame, hindering emotional healing and growth.

The shame compass helps us understand how trauma influences our response to shame. This compass often pulls us in four directions:

1. Attack Others: Deflecting shame by blaming others.
2. Attack Self: Internalising the shame, leading to self-criticism.
3. Withdrawal: Retreating into isolation.
4. Avoidance: Distracting ourselves or denying our feelings.

Trauma often distorts how we navigate this compass, making us feel stuck in one of these directions. But healing is possible when we recognise these patterns and start moving towards self-compassion. 💖✨

If you’d like to learn more, please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Ever felt like you’re trapped in a cycle of shame? Shame often stems from trauma, creating a deep sense of unworthiness. Trauma disrupts self-identity, and shame reinforces negative beliefs about ourselves, trapping us in cycles of self-blame, hindering emotional healing and growth.

The shame compass helps us understand how trauma influences our response to shame. This compass often pulls us in four directions:

1. Attack Others: Deflecting shame by blaming others.
2. Attack Self: Internalising the shame, leading to self-criticism.
3. Withdrawal: Retreating into isolation.
4. Avoidance: Distracting ourselves or denying our feelings.

Trauma often distorts how we navigate this compass, making us feel stuck in one of these directions. But healing is possible when we recognise these patterns and start moving towards self-compassion. 💖✨

If you’d like to learn more, please click the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy to visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Many men experience trauma in childhood. Gender socialisation can stop them from asking for help. The expectation that men don’t cry. Men must be strong and carry on. That they don’t get emotional. This expectation creates a harmful pattern where men feel they must suppress their feelings, which can lead to deeper emotional struggles down the line.

The Burden of Repression
By pushing emotions aside, men carry the heavy burden of unresolved pain. Repressed emotions don’t simply go away—they manifest as anxiety, depression, anger, or difficulties in relationships. This emotional bottling creates long-term mental and emotional health challenges.

It’s Time to Break the Silence
Vulnerability is not a weakness, and men deserve the same emotional freedom to express and heal. Breaking the silence around men’s trauma can lead to healthier lives.

You Are Not Alone
It’s time to shift the narrative—men deserve healing too. Let’s normalise talking about emotions and trauma.

If you’d like to learn more, please click in the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy or visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Many men experience trauma in childhood. Gender socialisation can stop them from asking for help. The expectation that men don’t cry. Men must be strong and carry on. That they don’t get emotional. This expectation creates a harmful pattern where men feel they must suppress their feelings, which can lead to deeper emotional struggles down the line.

The Burden of Repression
By pushing emotions aside, men carry the heavy burden of unresolved pain. Repressed emotions don’t simply go away—they manifest as anxiety, depression, anger, or difficulties in relationships. This emotional bottling creates long-term mental and emotional health challenges.

It’s Time to Break the Silence
Vulnerability is not a weakness, and men deserve the same emotional freedom to express and heal. Breaking the silence around men’s trauma can lead to healthier lives.

You Are Not Alone
It’s time to shift the narrative—men deserve healing too. Let’s normalise talking about emotions and trauma.

If you’d like to learn more, please click in the link in my bio @be.authentic_trauma.therapy or visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Anger can serve as a defence mechanism in response to trauma. It acts as an emotional shield, protecting from the underlying feelings of vulnerability, fear, and pain that are often too overwhelming to face directly. Here's how anger functions in this context:

Emotional Protection
* Barrier to Vulnerability: Anger can be a way to avoid confronting feelings of helplessness or sadness.
* Redirection of Pain: Instead of feeling the deep hurt associated with trauma, anger can redirect that pain outward, focusing on something or someone else.

Cognitive Avoidance
* Distraction from Trauma: Anger can preoccupy the mind, keeping traumatic memories or emotions at bay.

Social Defence
* Boundary Setting: Anger can create boundaries that protect from further harm. By displaying anger, you may deter others from engaging in behaviours that could re-traumatise you.
* Assertion of Autonomy: In situations where trauma has involved a loss of control (e.g., abuse), anger can help you assert autonomy and reclaim a sense of power.

Challenges of Anger as a Defence
* Interpersonal Strain: While anger can protect, it can also alienate loved ones, leading to isolation. Over time, this can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and despair.
* Impediment to Healing: Anger can prevent you from processing trauma, as it keeps you from engaging with the underlying emotions that need to be addressed for healing to occur.

Understanding the role of anger in trauma provides insight into the emotional landscape that trauma survivors navigate and can inform more effective treatment strategies.

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Anger can serve as a defence mechanism in response to trauma. It acts as an emotional shield, protecting from the underlying feelings of vulnerability, fear, and pain that are often too overwhelming to face directly. Here's how anger functions in this context:

Emotional Protection
* Barrier to Vulnerability: Anger can be a way to avoid confronting feelings of helplessness or sadness.
* Redirection of Pain: Instead of feeling the deep hurt associated with trauma, anger can redirect that pain outward, focusing on something or someone else.

Cognitive Avoidance
* Distraction from Trauma: Anger can preoccupy the mind, keeping traumatic memories or emotions at bay.

Social Defence
* Boundary Setting: Anger can create boundaries that protect from further harm. By displaying anger, you may deter others from engaging in behaviours that could re-traumatise you.
* Assertion of Autonomy: In situations where trauma has involved a loss of control (e.g., abuse), anger can help you assert autonomy and reclaim a sense of power.

Challenges of Anger as a Defence
* Interpersonal Strain: While anger can protect, it can also alienate loved ones, leading to isolation. Over time, this can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and despair.
* Impediment to Healing: Anger can prevent you from processing trauma, as it keeps you from engaging with the underlying emotions that need to be addressed for healing to occur.

Understanding the role of anger in trauma provides insight into the emotional landscape that trauma survivors navigate and can inform more effective treatment strategies.

If you’d like to learn more, please DM me or visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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Intergenerational transmission of trauma refers to the psychological and emotional effects of trauma that are passed from one generation to the next. This process can occur through various mechanisms, such as parental behaviour, family dynamics, and epigenetic changes.

Children of trauma survivors may inherit the unresolved stress, anxiety, attachment style and coping patterns of their parents, even without direct exposure to the traumatic events. This can impact their mental health, relationships, and overall well-being, perpetuating a cycle of trauma that spans multiple generations unless actively addressed.

It’s possible to break the cycle by integrating the traumatic memories of our past.

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Intergenerational transmission of trauma refers to the psychological and emotional effects of trauma that are passed from one generation to the next. This process can occur through various mechanisms, such as parental behaviour, family dynamics, and epigenetic changes.

Children of trauma survivors may inherit the unresolved stress, anxiety, attachment style and coping patterns of their parents, even without direct exposure to the traumatic events. This can impact their mental health, relationships, and overall well-being, perpetuating a cycle of trauma that spans multiple generations unless actively addressed.

It’s possible to break the cycle by integrating the traumatic memories of our past.

If you’d like to learn more, please DM me or visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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When we think of memory we typically refer to conscious self-initiated recall or explicit memory.

However implicit memory runs most of our lives. This type of memory is stored in the unconscious and is effective as it’s automatic, non-effortful and fast.

Implicit memory is revealed when performance on a task (e.g. riding a bike, driving a car) is facilitated in the absence of conscious recollection.

Implicit memories pop into the mind uncontrollably and involuntarily.

Explicit memory can be accessed by the conscious brain through verbal communication. Implicit memory can be accessed through increased awareness the body and emotions.

This top-down and bottom-up approach to memory integration is important in healing from trauma.

If you’d like to learn more, please DM me or visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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When we think of memory we typically refer to conscious self-initiated recall or explicit memory.

However implicit memory runs most of our lives. This type of memory is stored in the unconscious and is effective as it’s automatic, non-effortful and fast.

Implicit memory is revealed when performance on a task (e.g. riding a bike, driving a car) is facilitated in the absence of conscious recollection.

Implicit memories pop into the mind uncontrollably and involuntarily.

Explicit memory can be accessed by the conscious brain through verbal communication. Implicit memory can be accessed through increased awareness the body and emotions.

This top-down and bottom-up approach to memory integration is important in healing from trauma.

If you’d like to learn more, please DM me or visit my website www.beyourauthenticself.co.uk

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